Aging & Community
Practical Ways to Build Connection and Meaning
This article was written by a guest contributor to the Center for Aging & Community.
There are currently 22.1 million people who identify as solo-agers in the United States (Mather Institute, 2024). Whether by chance or by choice, a growing number of older adults will find themselves going solo this year. I have developed a list of ways to thrive (and not just survive) in 2026.
- Redefine your inner circle. "Family" is a subjective term and can include anyone (or anything) you have a close bond with. It can include friends, colleagues, or even beloved pets. It is up to you.
- Reach out to others #1. Make an effort to call, write, or text someone you have lost touch with. Catching up with friends is not only fun, it also helps provide the necessary social supports that ward off depression and isolation for both of you.
- Reach out to others #2. If you have the time, energy, and good health, look for opportunities to volunteer in your community. Don't know where to look? AARP has a number of volunteer opportunities. Many of these opportunities are virtual if leaving your home is not an option. You may also want to contact your state's Office for Aging.
- Give until you feel the burn. Give to the organizations that support the causes you believe in. As funding for many organizations has been, or will be, reduced in the future, now more than ever, it is important to give generously. Keep in mind that our future generations will become our leaders and decision-makers. Give to organizations that support their education and personal development.
- Find something to love. Whether it be adopting a pet, buying a plant (ok, you cannot buy just one), or a cause, find something to nurture, to love. We could all use a lot more of it.
- Remember the past, but do not dwell there. If you are fortunate enough to have fond memories of the past by all means, reflect on them with love and gratitude; however, do not dwell there for long. Living in the past prohibits you from embracing the future. Focus on developing new traditions for the new year.
- Honor those who are no longer with us. Light a candle, say a prayer, and tell them you are grateful for having them as a part of your life. Tell them you love them.
- Seek help. Solo aging can be challenging for older adults without family or friends to support them If you are depressed or are having thoughts of self-harm, please call or text 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. The Friendship Line can be reached toll-free by calling 888.670.1360. They provide emotional support and friendly conversation to older adults ages 60+.